Educated Guess?

I love feeling certain with my position. My certainty doesn't mean I am correct, it means I made the decision to research hard enough to feel confident. I'm not a fan of assumptions or probabilities. Both are on shaking ground even with over 90% going in siding with that positions. So what other course of... Continue Reading →


Yes I am Back

I have been gone a very long time. I have had my fair share of ups and downs the last few years( the subject of my new four book series), but being the optimistic Buddhist I am, I needed every moment of it. I learned triggers for bad behavior I didn't know I had( no... Continue Reading →


I’m not going to go over all the wonderful contributions Martin Luther King Jr gave to the world.  His accomplishments are well documented in movies, books and Wikipedia. I’m here to talk about my hope for his legacy and what I take from the life of this great man. And the most important thing I have received from his life is that he was flawed. This might sounds horrible for those who just stop there but read on and I will explain.

I’ve written about this before in my amazing blog post that no one read Snowflakes on my tongue, but the flaws of a great man show how my flaws aren’t a big deal.  I’m always ashamed how as a society we look for and wait for how heroes to show weakness and fall. It makes better news to see Bill Clinton in a sex scandal, and decide not…

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I read a wonderful article on the gay communities treatment of interracial couples. The focus was on black and white couples as most other interracial couples don’t seem to have the same stigma as black and white couples do.  As someone who dates all races, I can say I myself was most uncomfortable in my early dating life being with white men because of the looks I received.  But this article isn’t about interracial couples.  My thoughts have shifted to the difficult task of being a black man in the gay community and to be frank, it sucks.

When I first began in the gay community, it shocked me to see the segregated areas in the “mixed” clubs (naive I know), and the race requirements in gay profiles online. I had and still have a hard time dating even my own race, as a large number of black gay men are only…

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Little Break

Thank you to all my followers. New blog post with lots of energy and thought will return June 1st. It will be worth the wait.

You could have asked

Ever been dumped because the other guy said " You deserve better," or " I just don't think I can give you what you want." I know I have with a whole host of reasons that are about what I want and deserve. They feel that they aren't on my level or that I have... Continue Reading →

Dior? Gucci? Fame? Stress!!!

There is a great song by Jazime Sullivian called "Famous." In the song she talked about the dream of having it all. She mentions wanting the girls to see her and dream to be like her because she is famous.  She talks about the pain of wanting is so bad and all she would do... Continue Reading →

Surviving or Living?

I can't say that all of my post will be thought provoking but this one was begging to be written. I recently fell in love with a survivor.  Through no fault of his own, he was born to a family that also only knew how to survive.  Joy was still plenty by the stories he... Continue Reading →

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