I have to say it was one of my numerous naive moments when I realized a lot of men dating a mirror image of themselves. From the height of the man, the hair style, tattoos in the same spot, and even dressed alike; I seriously found it a bit weird to see twin dating. When I continued into the world of gay dating and subsequently online dating, profiles seemed to illustrate this twin dating syndrome was an epidemic in our community. It’s no longer Ken and Barbie, the ideal couple but Ken and Ken made from the same factory.
I personally don’t want to date myself and it’s not to say I’m not worth dating. I prefer something different, someone I can learn something from and be able to appreciate they features are something new. It’s also important to point out I’m not as look-centric as other men so finding my mirror image isn’t as much as a priority. So why seek out someone who you already see each morning when you wake up? Is it ego and complete narcissism that pulls men to be attracted to themselves? Is it a bit incestuous?
I feel it’s for sure narcissism but also a comfortableness in dating someone who looks just like you. You can assume they have the same interests and values as you do, as well as habits that can hopefully sustain a relationship. Dating is already stressful and if one can make it easier by eliminating risk and uncertainty, why not?
Personally I see it as taking the mystery out of romance and the journey of dating. It’s about discovery. You can discover new things in the world as well as new things in yourself by dating a person that isn’t the same mentally and physically as you. It’s the fun part to explore in dating with differences that can even scare you. The unknown helps you to grow and that growth makes you even more attractive to that special person.
But who am I to judge? Just thought I would share my observation and see if I was alone in my thinking.