Opinions, Opinions

There are several principles in Buddhism. I began losing sleep over concepts and opinions. We are brought into the world only with bare perceptions of things:  visual consciousness simply aware of some raw sensory data. But, soon after, the conceptualizing part of your mind dresses up the bare perception in a huge assortment of notions, ideas, preferences and other dualistic judgments. I began to lose sleep because I started to play in my head how many times I missed out on knowing someone because of these notions.  I thought about how many times I hurt someone because of these ideas.  I thought about what a waste these preferences had on my actual experiences in life.

It’s true everyone has opinions but those opinions have the chance to do nothing more than separate.  The right kind of school, the wrong hair style, the right friends, the wrong cut of steak; these are all categories that can bring both pleasure and pain but can you accept what is and just be? This is my goal following a Buddhist way of life.  I endeavor to become neutral and accept what life has to offer.  It’s not being complacent or a spectator in life. I can still make decisions to lead to a happy outcome, but I hope not to be as disappointed when life takes me somewhere else.

Those who aren’t familiar with Buddhism might feel it is checking out.  That a Buddhist loses sight of reality just to be more idealistic(this is an opinion).  These opinions are dangerous.  One can simply look back in history and see what opinions on race and religion have had on society.  One can look at their own opinions and see where if they had taken the other side, how much things could have been different. And often times the decisions we make aren’t based in direct knowledge, it’s fear or even learned from another.

I fear I’m not being as eloquent as I would like. When I decide based off opinion on the character of a person, and it can even be based off experiences with someone “like” that person, I close myself off to possibilities. I judge that person when all I needed to do was ask, investigate.  Even then if after asking I get an uneasy feeling from that person, I’m sure I can dig deeper to find something worth cherishing. And why go through all that effort?  Why not?

Decisions need to be made on fact, not opinions, blind faith or guessing. Opportunities are always around us. Make informed decisions to really live life and steady yourself. Don’t stop yourself because of something you think may happen. Don’t think you are living your life on certainty when the  lives you live are based on other’s recommendations. We too often listen to others, accept what “experts” tell us, and go with what is “normal”. Be strong, be open, be without dead end opinions.


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  1. That is very fascinating, You’re an overly professional blogger. I’ve joined your feed and look forward to in the hunt for more of your fantastic post. Additionally, I have shared your web site in my social networks!


  2. You state that “Decisions need to be made on fact, not opinions, blind faith or guessing. Make informed decisions to really live life and steady yourself.”

    What do you have when you find yourself faced with a decision concerning any one of a million variables in your life, of which you are fully ignorant, if not a hunch.; personal preference; hope; expectations.

    You continue, “Opportunities are always around us. Don’t stop yourself because of something you think may happen. ”

    Isn’t that the same as trying new things. Making decisions with no prior knowledge or experience. Stepping out on “blind faith” one could say.
    Facts are funny things to use as your sole basis of decision making How many times in life has your truth changed even when the facts didn’t? When the intangibles were far more engaging than the base fact.

    You go further to suggest that we not “think you are living your life on certainty when the lives you live are based on other’s recommendations.”. But aren’t you hoping that we would take your recommendation on this issue? Hay,” Even this blog of your, I would venture to assume, is the result of someone recommending it as a medium to purge and process. Don’t we take pride in ourselves when others recommend us for something. Aren’t the recommendations of those we value and trust the first things we look to even from inference. The recommendations of parents, teachers, friends are invaluable to us and help to shape the individuals we will become.


    1. Very interesting comments. The bases of this post is to say you must judge based on personal experience, not based experiences from another person or from fear or any number of things that “could be”. You only know for a fact by trial and error in life. Blind faith is faith that you just trust in, you have no knowledge of it’s truth, you hope and believe. I feel it’s important to not just hope and believe but try and know as fact. Why should faith be blind? As for recommendations, it’s more don’t let those be a reason to stop you from experiencing and finding the truth on your own. It’s nice for someone to say this is good or bad but with those “opinions” some might do or not do something for themselves. Trust yourself more, known by doing, limit opinions and just work the facts.

      Oh and your “assumption” on the reason for this blog is an example of an opinion that is not correct. Best thing one can do is ask. Certainty feels better. This blog was of my own decision to fill some time and to get my creative juices flowing. Something I always wanted to do but didn’t have the time. No one made the suggestion for the reason of “purging or processing” Just something I thought would be fun and I love it. Thank you for your comments.


  3. Hi there. I like everything you write. I am new here, ie, dont know the protocol, so please forgive me my faux pas (insert plural). A question: what is a fact? What is “fact?” Can I dig and dig and find the bedrock of “fact?” I’m a senior and dont have a lot of ‘dig’ energy! What — hmm, may I say : “how” — do I DO to jump past judgments of fact/not-fact and land in a going-on process? I at my best, ie, most speeding along drunk, or ‘as’ drunk, and not worrying too much if it’s right or true or factual. Where I am is where I do. I learning to laugh at self when look back and see soo stupid actions. Cry a bit too, but just accept. Have not been tossed and tested in extremis, but — so far, life — living — is beautiful. It’s all I know, so — why not?


    1. Fact is your truth, your testing, your experience. everything you learn from a book or others or from me is my perception, fact is solid and the only way things are solid to you is by testing them out. you make the decision fact or not. it’s really a simple thing. Judgment is your decision as well. You can decide not to just and just accept. It isnt easy but with practice it can work.


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